I made a firm decision when my kids were born that we were going to make one stop on the holidays, not try to visit both sides of the family. This has worked out quite well on my side, my in-laws aren't so practical. My mother-in-law feels she needs to see everyone on the "actual" holiday. For several years now they have stopped by our house about an hour before we are scheduled to leave for Christmas Eve mass, even though we've outlined our plans for the day. Last year I gave up being polite and let my husband visit with them while I was getting dressed for church. Of course, he was still buttoning up his shirt as we were pulling out of the driveway heading for church.
Thanksgiving has generally been a designated in-law holiday. We started eating early (1:00 p.m.) as my daughter has to work at 3:00 p.m. This has worked out well. We just have my parents and my mother-in-law and father-in-law. This year panic set in for my m-in-l because the first grandchild to go away for college would be returning for the holiday, as well as, the other sister-in-laws were not spending the day with their respective families. The word on the street is that they aren't too happy with this. So they will throw dinner down their throats at our house and then "just drop by" for dessert at the other in-law's house. Yeah right, I can feel my m-in-l twitching already as the panic sets in that something is happening at the other house that she's not a part of.
My son and I will also probably head to the other house for dessert. My husband, who is probably at the root of this traveling delemia, "just wants to stay home."
Tis the season.......